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In which I look at why we should not present the idea of trans-ness to children. Concept of Self in Child Development is very important. This concept has been evaluated for many years in psychology. The basics are that kids develop a sense of self over time and this is relative to feedback they receiveContinue reading “Don’t tell the kids”

46 year old very hip lesbian mother of three girls who worked with and for the trans community for years has a mind melt-down… A Twinge of Cringe I was increasingly disturbed about the numbers of girls that I heard about wanting to transition to being men. As a lesbian, I am keenly aware thatContinue reading “Why can’t girls be girls”

1998 At the birth of my first child, I researched being a parent like any nerd. I read entire books upon books about birth, breastfeeding, and vaccines. We didn’t have the internet back then. It was also before the days when you could self-publish any damn thing you wanted to in print. I made theContinue reading “Vaccine Shame Changed”

Am I an ex-liberal? “I watched every sane person lose their ever-loving mind following government propaganda with covid. If you did too, bless your heart. You can still wake up.” I know the small amount of readers I currently have were waiting so long for a post about my 30 year relationship of subordination andContinue reading “A Change of Direction”

To say it’s been hectic here is an understatement. Since we last met, I’ve  made all the side-dishes for Christmas meal, entertained and adored my grand-daughter for hours, made gnocchi, driven the 2+ hours to the Denver airport twice, shipped 40 orders from my website (still many to go), spent time with my partner andContinue reading “10. Out With the Old”

I talked to my mom yesterday and it was good. She is validly worried about me doing this publicly. One thing that drastically changed the conversation around was letting her know that I am 14 days sober. In her southern drawl she exclaimed,  “Oh HONEY! That’s WONDERFUL! I thought you were just writing all thisContinue reading “9. Marching Day”

I think it important to point out that surely I have driven all the way around the longest block and am reapproaching an old destination in a new different car.  He was 47 when this all began. I am 46 now, driving quickly to the house of 47. He is exactly 30 years older thanContinue reading “8. Driving Hamsters Around the Block”

Rereading the last post. I sound like such a normal kid. But I really wasn’t. I was known as one of the weirdest girls in school. Outlandish is a good word to insert here. Straight A, yes. Dressed extremely weird and extremely different every single day. Some days i had a long scarf on myContinue reading “7. I’m Pissed”

I was elated that I got hired at the pet store. My first job was going to be my dream job?!?! I don’t know if my parents were going through some financial duress at the time, but I do remember that my dad was *really* pushing me to get and start a job as soonContinue reading “6. The Set-Up”

I was 17. I think it must have been January? I was a junior in high school.  Yes, that’s right. I had to step away for an hour just now to work out what year it was when i walked into that pet store. I was suddenly overcome by the memory of how much iContinue reading “5.First Meeting then Leads us to a Background Check”